Mutual masturbation is fun and you might actually learn a thing or two. Although many people think of masturbation as a solo activity, adding your partner into the mix can lead to some great fun and games and give the whole masturbation experience a new dimension.
The key words here are communication and openness. So, encourage us. Tell us how good it makes you feel to watch us as we share our most intimate act. Set the mood and take your time, slowly and gently.
What stops many couples indulging in mutual masturbation is generally fear. In some ways you are putting on a show for your partner, just as you would if you were to do a strip tease. The first time I ever did it I felt awkward, stupid, and self-conscious for about two seconds. Once I looked at his face and realized how much he was enjoying watching me enjoy myself I let myself go and treat me good.
There are several ways you can add masturbation into your normal love life and below are a few ideas to help you.
Show and Tell
This is an ideal technique and one of the safest forms of foreplay as it involves only touching yourself and not your partner. This does require a level of confidence and trust between both parties though, as you need to let your guard down, to some extent, to really appreciate the entire experience.
Some people prefer to sit across the room from each other while others prefer to lie on the bed and diddle at the same time. Being able to sit back and watch your partner pleasure themselves can be extremely erotic:
“My boyfriend likes to get me really turned on, he works me up, and then he’ll take my hand and place it between my legs, letting me know he wants to watch. The way it turned him on was reward enough to make me lose all sense of inhibition. He got off big time while watching me masturbate and the orgasm I had was definitely powerful! “
Toying Around
A fun way to introduce toys into your sex play – you can either simply use the toy on yourself as your lover watches or you could ask them to place their hand over yours and help guide it to the spots.
“I have a couple of toys that I like to use with my partner. Sometimes we both pick out one that we like, lie side by side, and just enjoy the sights and sounds of each other getting horny.”
Teach Me
Mutual masturbation is an ideal way to teach your partner how best to please you. Your mission is to educate them to best pleasure you using only your hands. You begin by showing them what type of stroke you like or where the more pleasurable parts of your body are…
“I realized how much he was learning by watching me touch myself that I figured it was only going to benefit me in the end.”
Double the Pleasure
Here you can both please and tease each other and practice the above techniques. Find a position where you can both comfortably reach each other’s genitals and begin masturbating each other. Do this separately where one will masturbate the other and then vice-versa.
Bath Fun
No need to keep mutual masturbation confined. It can be fun to take into the bath or shower.
“My boyfriend likes to watch me in the shower. I’ll stand with the curtain open and maneuver the water to pleasure myself while he sits on the stool and masturbates while watching me.”
Drive Me Wild
A great way to masturbate mutually is during a long car ride. If one of you is driving the other one can masturbate and then you change over or stop and dive into the back seat, whichever seems the best option at the time.
“Masturbating in a car is exciting, maybe because there’s the possibility of being seen by someone or the fact that my partner is helpless because he’s driving and can’t do anything about what I’m doing that turns me on.”
The above are just some ideas that I’ve tried and I know from many others that have enjoyed it as well. Just relax, communicate and above all have fun!
**This text does not reflect, necessarily, ApartadoX opinion.
