People enjoy happiness; therefore, they pursue good sex. Because the best sex involves another person, attaining it can be more complicated than a trip to the grocery store or stepping into my backyard.
The search for good sex extends beyond pleasurable genitalia, impressive stamina, and even a pretty face. Beauty and technique matter, but not as much as a person’s ability to inspire or make another person smile. Sex toys have come a long way – and it is definitely much more than just something alike a firm, sizable cock.
Sex with personality
Causal sex becomes less casual when personalities get involved, but without personality, what fun is sex? Physical release is intense, amazing, healthy, and necessary, but we wouldn’t call that fun in sex. Fun is eye contact pulling you towards a first kiss. Fun is a full body spark emanating from bare feet. Fun is exchanging breath while laughing. Fun is intimate and intimacy is excitingly teasing.
If one has sex with you, there is at least some fancying involved. People might like you like liking the sunshine, gaining from you a warmth that fills the person and sends him or her (or both) straight to sleep. Relaxing fully when you’re together and delighting in both good humors, just like closing the eyes and savoring a Mon Chéri.
Whichever form it takes, liking differs from loving. Likewise, a desire to have sex with someone only sometimes coincides with wanting to establish a committed relationship. There’s an obvious, glowing overlap in the Venn Diagram of sex and attachment, but there are singular spaces, and they don’t all represent anonymous sex.
The pursuit of happiness in good sex
People seek happiness, and they know what it is. It’s coconut yogurt with chocolate chips. It’s sunny cheeks. It’s cold beverage in a sunny summer pool. It’s a blooming flower the day before it is offered to the lover.
And it’s the sweat behind the neck. It’s the arch of the back. It’s frantic fingers and shuddering thighs. However intense and however intimate, sex can also just be joy.
When we’re truthful with ourselves and with our partners, we’re granted the freedom to enjoy what we enjoy. When coyness morphs into game playing, we only limit ourselves. Too often, we restrict pleasure out of fear or perceived obligation. Without suggesting irresponsibly or hedonism, let’s cast a vote for honesty and explore your feet fetish, your kinky submission and domination games, the desire of erotic mania shaking off the shy vanilla, just to release your wildest sex fantasies.
The best sex is shared between people who understand each other’s relevant needs. If you’re forming a relationship, you may want to discuss future goals. If you’re embarking on a one-night stand, find out how what fantasy is urging to be fulfilled. And if what you want to fall somewhere in between, say what’s honest, do what’s true, seek pleasure and harm no one – joyful sex makes angels of us all and gives us wild wings, where we had prune shoulders, smoothly flirting as ravens claws.
