BDSM for Beginners – Whiplashes and pleasure pains or cuffed sex – what exactly is BDSM?
These sex games and fantasies have been quite popular for a long time, even long before the worldwide success of “50 Shades of Gray”, which eventually broke the last taboo barrier on the roles of Domination and Submission, revealing that there are many adults interested in this quest for sexual pleasure.
A simple answer is not possible, because behind the four letters lies a whole universe of distinct variations with several roleplaying games between domination and submission.
BDSM stands for “Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).
Therefore, it is a collective term for the broad field of fetishistic practices and, as the name suggests, for games of sexual power and subjugation. This can be as close to the erogenous zones, gentle as a light strike onto the buttocks, or even extreme hardcore sex with the use of handcuffs, gags, cages, whips or other instruments to inflict pleasure pains.
There are well-defined rules in BDSM for beginners and all variations that fall into BDSM basically reveal three things in common. First, there is always at least one active part that exercises power (Dom) and a passive part that submits itself (Sub). Secondly, all acts are voluntary and by mutual agreement. Especially this second rule has to be mandatory for all lovers and is not negotiable!
A third rule is especially useful in BDSM for beginners: set a code word, in case a personal limit is exceeded and to immediately stop the game, without any “ifs” or “buts”.
Decide together which sexual revelation to explore
Whether it is handcuffs and shackles, punishment or bondage, each couple is free to explore sexual stimulation, alone or even in swing group. For example, there is the combination of dominatrix and slave or dominus and slave.
SM enjoys great popularity in homosexual couples and is also widely practiced in groups. This happens mainly in the context of a session, that is, in the agreed time for sexual games. In addition, there are even BDSM sessions that stretch throughout the day: these are called 24/7.
What BDSM games are there?
There are many different trends within the BDSM community. The most common among BDSM for beginners is certainly the game of erotic domination, which includes elements from many areas. Here, the submissive part can be tied up with handcuffs, silk scarves or ropes and indulge in the pleasure of the dominant party. The partner has to take control and prepare the submissive partner for a change of desire and torment. If you want to experience this type of sexual pleasure game, you will find a very varied choice of instruments suitable for the initial stage – from the noble paddle to the shiny vibrator.
The goal of the game is to offer both partners plenty of pleasures and intense orgasms. Subs often rejoice in their captive role and regard it as a feeling of pure freedom – the abandonment of control to surrender to another person whom they blindly trust (in its literal sense). The dominant partner, on the other hand, likes the representation of power and the devotion of the submissive partner.
The rule of thumb in sex: if it is the will of all involved, enjoy the good moments of pure pleasure. And there are many luxury escorts who would love to be your dominatrix or slave.
Will you dare yourself to the unknown?
**This text does not reflect, necessarily, ApartadoX opinion.
