With so many tips, guides and articles for achieving orgasm, sex can seem like a race toward orgasm when there is so much more to it.
These Tantric tips are for anyone, and can help you have better sex with body and soul.
Tantra (Sanskrit word for “interwoven”) sex is about slowing down, connecting with your partner, becoming orgasmic, experiencing your partner’s body and soul in a sensitively enhanced manner.
Real tantra is something that must be explored and learned and discovered over time, and here are a few ways to start bringing some of its key elements into your love life. Do you know about Karezza, for example?
Create and Intimate and Relaxing Space
In Tantra, sex is considered to be a full body and mind experience. A big part of Tantra can involve satisfying all of your senses. Think of what scents relax you and your partner, or what fragrances might stimulate you. Lavender is known to relieve stress, and incense or candles can definitely be mood-setting. Consider color, texture, music, even foods. Make sure you are dressed comfortably, with clothes that feel good against your skin. Remember that the space you create, it should form a comfort zone to focus only on your partner.
Breathe and Make Eye Contact
Breathing is an excellent way to relax your body. Start by sitting down across from your partner, either cross-legged with your knees touching or, if you’d prefer more physical contact, sit with one person in the other person’s lap with your legs wrapped around each other.
Try drawing in a deep breath for four seconds through your mouth, then releasing air slowly for four seconds through your nose. Try also coordinating your breath with your partner to create a feeling of connection. Inhale when your partner inhales; exhale when your partner exhales. Alternatively, do a breath exchange: inhale when your partner exhales, exhale when your partner inhales. Focus your gaze on your partner’s eyes so you’re looking straight at each other. This may feel very vulnerable at first, but with practice, it’ll be an avenue to a deeper intimacy.
Practice Awareness
Instead of rushing through pleasure, let yourself slowly become aware of every part of your body and how it feels when you are touched. It helps to move through your body in sections, starting from your toes to your ankles, right up to your neck and face and the tips of your ears. Sense everything from the way your skin feels to the temperature of the room. Caress, kiss, and otherwise touch your partner and linger to be touched, but slowly, and in places of your body other than just the typical erogenous zones. Try touching your partner’s neck, or stomach, or thighs. Don’t worry about being aroused. Just let that come naturally and you can even add body oil or a massage to the moment.
Maintain Arousal
As Tantric sex is about being orgasmic rather than working toward having an orgasm, try the technique of both of you coming close to orgasm, then letting your arousal plateau before you go over the edge and then build it up again, intensifying your sexual energy.
Every time you reach the edge and pull back, you heighten your arousal. This is also a good way to develop self-control, and ultimately makes your orgasm much more intense when you finally enjoy it.
Sex is fun, but Tantra is about awaking sexual energy, exploring your senses, and finding a deeper connection with yourself and your partner. By taking the focus away from climaxing, Tantra can help you experiencing sex in a more holistic way.
It’s also something that needs to be learned and practiced over time.
And, surely, it is a great way to spend a Saturday night!
**This text does not reflect, necessarily, ApartadoX opinion.
